Relationships are challenging!
Especially if you believe the lie that…
- …you don’t have the right personality.
- …great relationships come naturally and with little effort.
- …you need to be lucky enough to find the “right” person.
- …if your relationship is struggling, you’re probably in the wrong relationship.
Here’s the real reason relationships are challenging.
They are complex!
In order to master any complex behavior (like playing basketball, learning self-defense, or playing the guitar) you have to:
- Break it down into simple, bite size steps that you can practice.
- Practice each step over and over again until it comes naturally.
- Combine the simple steps together to create mastery.
At Heart Tools, we have created a step by step plan that will help you master the skills and the tools that you need to build great relationships in every area of your life.
Loving Well: Increasing Your Emotional Awareness and Connection
Skill: Understanding Emotions
Video 1: Practice Understanding Your Emotions (Part 1)
Get our free Relationship Dashboard Check to help you practice
Video 2: Practice Understanding Your Emotions (Part 2)
Get our free Relationship Dashboard Check to help you practice
Video 3: Practice Eliminating Phrases that Kill Connection
Get our free Invalidation Statements to help you practice
Video 4: Practice Allowing Others to Feel Their Emotions
Video 5: Practice Helping Others Fell Connected to You
Video 6: Practice Feeling the Full Range of Your Emotions (Part 1)
Get our free Restoring Your Heart to Factory Settings to help you practice
Video 7: Practice Feeling the Full Range of Your Emotions (Part 2)
Video 8: Practice Feeling Empathy
Get our free Creating Empathy to help you practice
Skill: Listening with Empathy
Video 1: Practice Listening with Empathy
Get our free Listening with Empathy to help you practice
Video 2: Practice Practicing - And Avoid this Red Flag
Video 3: Practice Listening to Non-Verbal Communication
Video 4: Practice Eliminating Bad Habits (Part 1)
Video 5: Practice Eliminating Bad Habits (Part 2)
Video 6: Practice Avoiding Toxic Conversations
Video 7: Practice Distinguishing Between Thoughts and Feelings
Skill: Validation
Video 1: Practice Being Curious Instead of Critical
Video 2: Practice Listening When You Disagree
Video 3: Practice Validating Others’ Emotions
Video 4: Practice Validating While Setting Boundaries
Video 5: Practice Setting Boundaries While Validating
Video 6: Practice Protecting Others’ Value While Listening
Video 7: Practice Listening Without Fixing
Video 8: Practice Listening Without Fixing (Part 2)
Special Topic
Video: Practice Helping Your Kids through this Common Challenge
Loving Well: Creating and Protecting Equal Value
Skill: Warmth
Video 1: Practice Noticing Warmth
Video 2: Practice Consistent Warmth
Video 3: Practice Warmth as a Spiritual Discipline
Video 4: Practice Noticing When You Lose Your Warmth
Video 5: Practice Noticing When You Lose Your Warmth (Part 2)
Skill: Apologizing
Video 1: Practice Apologizing Well
Skill: Showing Appreciation
Video 1: Practice Showing Appreciation (Part 1)
Video 2: Practice Showing Appreciation (Part 2)
Video 3: Practice Showing Appreciation (Part 3)
Video 4: Practice Showing Appreciation (Part 4)
Video 5: Practice A Different Kind of Appreciation
Video 6: Practice Getting the Appreciation You Need
Video 7: Practice Getting Your Emotional Needs Met
Loving Well: Creating and Protecting Equal Power
Skill: Listening with Respect
Video 1: Practice Being Curious
Video 2: Practice Listening with Respect
Video 3: Practice Listening Honestly
Video 4: Practice Listening without Arguing
Video 5: Practice Speaking without Arguing
Video 6: Practice Talking about God without Arguing
Video 7: Practice Talking about Science and Justice without Arguing
Video 8: Practice Talking about Politics without Arguing
Skill: Respecting One Another's NO
Video 1: Practice Understanding Your Yes
Video 2: Practice Understanding Saying No Isn't Selfish
Video 3: Practice Helping Others Hear Your No
Video 4: Practice the Emotional Work of Saying No
Video 5: Practice Delivering a Strong and Loving No
Video 6: Practice Hearing No to Build Trust
Skill: Staying Out of the Shame Triangle
Video 1: Practice Recognizing the Shame Triangle
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