We make it simple to build great relationships

Relationships are challenging!

Especially if you believe the lie that…

  • …you don’t have the right personality.
  • …great relationships come naturally and with little effort.
  • …you need to be lucky enough to find the “right” person.
  • …if your relationship is struggling, you’re probably in the wrong relationship.

Here’s the real reason relationships are challenging.

They are complex!

In order to master any complex behavior (like playing basketball, learning self-defense, or playing  the guitar) you have to:

  • Break it down into simple, bite size steps that you can practice. 
  • Practice each step over and over again until it comes naturally.
  • Combine the simple steps together to create mastery. 

At Heart Tools, we have created a step by step plan that will help you master the skills and the tools that you need to build great relationships in every area of your life. 

Loving Well: Increasing Your Emotional Awareness and Connection

   Skill:  Understanding Emotions
      Video 1: Practice Understanding Your Emotions (Part 1) 
         Get our free Relationship Dashboard Check to help you practice
      Video 2: Practice Understanding Your Emotions (Part 2) 
         Get our free Relationship Dashboard Check to help you practice
      Video 3: Practice Eliminating Phrases that Kill Connection
         Get our free Invalidation Statements to help you practice
      Video 4: Practice Allowing Others to Feel Their Emotions
      Video 5: Practice Feeling Connected
      Video 6: Practice Feeling the Full Range of Your Emotions (Part 1)
         Get our free Restoring Your Heart to Factory Settings to help you practice
      Video 7: Practice Feeling the Full Range of Your Emotions (Part 2)
      Video 8: Practice Feeling Empathy
         Get our free Creating Empathy to help you practice
  
   Skill: Listening with Empathy
      Video 1: Practice Listening with Empathy
         Get our free Listening with Empathy to help you practice
      Video 2: Practice Listening to Non-Verbal Communication
      Video 3: Practice Eliminating Bad Habits (Part 1)
      Video 4: Practice Eliminating Bad Habits (Part 2)
      Video 5: Practice Avoiding Toxic Conversations
  
   Skill: Validation
      Video 1: Practice Being Curious Instead of Critical
      Video 2: Practice Listening When You Disagree
      Video 3: Practice Validating Others’ Emotions
      Video 4: Practice Validating While Setting Boundaries
      Video 5: Practice Setting Boundaries While Validating
      Video 6: Practice Protecting Others’ Value While Listening
      Video 7: Practice Listening Without Fixing
      Video 8: Practice Listening Without Fixing (Part 2)
  
   Special Topics
      Video: Practice Helping Your Kids through this Common Challenge
  
Loving Well: Creating and Protecting Equal Value

   Skill: Warmth             
      Video 1: Practice Noticing Warmth
      Video 2: Practice Consistent Warmth
      Video 3: Practice Warmth as a Spiritual Discipline
      Video 4: Practice Noticing When You Lose Your Warmth 
      Video 5: Practice Noticing When You Lose Your Warmth (Part 2) 

   Skill: Apologizing 
      Video 1: Practice Apologizing Well 
    
   Skill: Showing Appreciation 
      Video 1: Practice Showing Appreciation (Part 1) 
      Video 2: Practice Showing Appreciation (Part 2) 
      Video 3: Practice Showing Appreciation (Part 3)
      Video 4: Practice Showing Appreciation (Part 4)
      Video 5: Practice A Different Kind of Appreciation
      Video 6: Practice Getting the Appreciation You Need
      Video 7: Practice Getting Your Emotional Needs Met

Loving Well: Creating and Protecting Equal Power 
                 
   Skill: Listening with Respect

      Video 1: Practice Being Curious
      Video 2: Practice Listening with Respect
      Video 3: Practice Listening Honestly
      Video 4: Practice Listening without Arguing
      Video 5: Practice Speaking without Arguing
      Video 6: Practice Talking about God without Arguing
      Video 7: Practice Talking about Science and Justice without Arguing
      Video 8: Practice Talking about Politics without Arguing

   Skill: Respecting One Another's NO

      Video 1: Practice Saying No: The Importance of Saying No
      Video 2: Practice Saying No: Saying No Isn't Selfish 
      Video 3: Practice Saying No: Helping Others Hear Your No
      Video 4: Practice Saying No: The Emotional Work of Saying No
      Video 5: Practice Saying No: Deliver a Strong and Loving No
      Video 6: Practice Hearing No to Build Trust 

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